My experience at Florida Moonshine got me thinking about public play. I don’t mean multi-player scenes, when everybody in the room is involved, but two people playing with each other in a room where most of the others are doing somethin else – playing, chatting, drinking, whatever.
It’s an odd sensation. I’m not sure how I feel about it. Not embarrassed, certainly: I don’t mind other people watching me play, if they want to. At the same time, there’s an undercurrent of actually imposing my scene on others. What if they didn’t want to see my play, but had to endure it, because I happened to get spanked in the same room? That’s quite cringe-worthy for me.
Anybody know what I mean? How do you feel about playing in public?
I don’t know how I feel about playing that publicly, but now that I’m not all that squeamish about hard play anymore, I do like watching the exhibitionists. Especially if both players are really into the scene.
I think it depends on the environment. If it’s a room at a spanking party, then I don’t worry about other people watching me play. But, if it was a casual gathering and no-one was expecting to see it, but were not going to object if it happened, I’d feel awkward.
If it’s a spanking party then people expect to see people playing in front of them. I’m pretty sure you can’t impose your scene on people who are there because they’re into the same thing.
I never had a problem with playing at parties, even at my first one. That was the first time I’d been spanked as an adult by somebody other than myself, so I wanted to have fun and experience EVERYTHING. I felt like a kid in a candy shop!
I’m not a big fan of it. I hate being the center of attention with people I do not know/in public. The couple of times I was part of a public scene, there was an annoying random girl I did not know who tried to insert themselves into what was going on by being a brat (btw if you’re reading, the girl who first thought it was funny to start shooting me with a water gun during the 2000 SL party while I was in the middle of playing with someone and then who later started calling out random numbers while I was playing with someone else while I was being asked to count them out, I mean you).
That said, my friends managed to tell Tony that year that it was actually my birthday during the party. He proceeded to inform Keith Jones, which led to Mr Jones giving me a VERY memorable birthday spanking. 😀
For the most part though, I’d rather keep my scenes small and private. If others are going to be there, I want to know them and have them be a part of the scene (be it school, friends caught by authority figure doing something wrong, etc.). Otherwise I want them elsewhere, so I can tell them the story of what happened later.
EM
I am not a big fan of public play, yet I do like to share my play with pictures, sound files, or by writing about it. I know what you mean about ‘imposing’ your play on someone else, I think that is exactly the feeling I get playing in a party type environment. My first party, (Ive only been to two in ten years of playing) I wanted to play but didn’t want to be the first one to start up a roleplay, and then there is the way other people might say things to influence the play. Yet, I do enjoy playing when there is a group and everyone is involved and we are friends so I know they will respect my style of play. I guess it is like being a kid and playing house or school and then grownups (people who arent playing ) walk into the room. It sort of stunts my creativity and I just can’t get into the role. I suppose it is more about the roleplay than the spanking. A sensation only spanking … that wouldn’t bother me at all in front of a crowd of strangers. Roleplay is just more intimate for me.
At a club or spanking party, I’d be okay with public play. But at a random vanilla location – not so much. As you said, I am always conscious of other people and their comfort level. I would hate to make someone else uncomfortable or embarrassed by my actions, so I would be hesitant to play somewhere very public.
I went to a large spanking party with gay men, straight men, and straight as well as a few gay women. The structure of the evening was “Being Called Out”. Everyone who came in was issued a Level Offense #: 1,2, 3, with three being the worst. Everyone had an INMATE NUMBER.It was totally random. Then, underneath there was a stroke number, and then you got to choose two ways for it to be administered. I chose hand and strap.
The main play space was in a very large dining room. When my Number was called out to present for punishment, I didn;t hear it, and they came into the room calling my number and two others.
One women and two men(I am male) were to bet in in my sequence. We had to disrobe with at least 40 people watching, hooting, leering, etc. Then STAND there facing the crowd. I went second. I went over a man’s knee, and was made to turn and face the crowd—EYES WIDE OPEN. When he did me with the strap I was really crying, etc., and could care LESS who saw me and how many, I was totally into the sexual sensations as well as the personal pain.