A few posts – and fantasies – of mine in recent months have featured back-whippings, and I’m wondering why.
It’s never particularly been a fantasy of mine. There’s the ‘back’ part of it – associated for me with strokes that end up far too high (for the buttocks) or far too low (for the shoulders, a part of the body that I’ve very occasionally been known to flog), or far too near those eminently-damageable kidneys. And, after all, I’m really, at heart, a girl-with-bared-bottom kind of perv.
Then there’s the ‘whipping’ half of the equation. Our collection of implements is pretty impressive – indeed, I’m starting to wonder whether there’s anyone in England with a larger spanking treasure-trove. It includes a fair few floggers – but only things that are used, by and large, for more sensual play. As for whips? Cats, single tails? Woefully under-represented in the armoury.
Yet lately? The idea of a girl tied around a whipping post – or with her hands high in the air? Her back bared – and her lower body still demurely covered? The disciplinarian laying on the strokes, hard, as the woman cries for mercy?
Yep, it’s really rather started to appeal – all of a sudden. What nags me somewhat is that, a few months ago, I downloaded a spanking clip set during the French revolution. In it, the daughter of some noble received her come-uppance for her haughty ways – back bared, flogged by the revolutionaries. The whole thing – despite the movie subsequently developing in a way that I decidedly didn’t find to my tastes – was really remarkably hot.
And then I stumbled upon a couple of Pain4Fem’s “Spanking Machine” films. Again, back whipping – of some truly beautiful girls – was the order of the day.
But hold on. That hints at a rather well-rehearsed sequence of events – guy watches ‘extreme’ porn, enjoys it, ponders it, finds the idea increasingly appealing, wants to try it in practice. Indeed, it’s the very argument that gives rise to the sort of reprehensible law on adult entertainment that our last government passed – and under which even my viewing of said movies would, very possibly, be unlawful.
So, maybe it’s just coincidence, this viewing / wanting to play combination. And I can’t think of any other types of porn I’ve watched that have led me to experiment in as-yet-unforeseen ways. (Except, perhaps, that one with the gerbil, the grandad and the giraffe. Joke.)
The difference, of course, between the legislators’ logic and my situation is that, in my case, I’d only ever enact my emerging fantasies with entirely consenting partners. But it bugs me, slightly, nonetheless. And I do so want to play a back-whipping scene.
I agree withyou Abel. I believe all corporal punishments for naughty woman, should be given to them on their bare bottoms. Be it the hand, paddle, hairbrush, birchrod, cane or whip. A woman’s bare bottom is the perfect place for them to feel the pain, when they are spanked.
Sounds like a reformatory possibility to me – mr sykes has a fantastic single tail and uses it well! I was on the receiving end two weeks ago and it was orgasmic!
For me, I love back whipping (in context, so not a schoolgirl scene thing, but good for period or institutional things). I like it sensually and I like it hard, but it’s the only form of cp that I enjoy really masochistically and it really makes me fly and find my space ;-). Happy to volunteer!
And also – from a practical point of view, although the bottom certainly takes the brunt of cp, there is no reason, if done carefully, why it has to be confined there. Done correctly and well, back, thighs, hands, breasts and feet are all areas I find erotic when context based. To solely concentrate on the bottom can be a little limiting in the gamut of play – and as long as playing with consent, is no more extreme than cp on the bottom. In fact, you are more likely to strike more severely
on the bottom because it can take it – I would never for example, want my back caned!
@Abel – As you yourself point out, not everything you watch has you wanting to imitate it. Just because something occurred to you because you saw a picture does not mean the picture caused the occurrence.
It seems to me that the kink expands and contracts, and is not necessarily dependent on what images one is viewing at the time. I would chalk this down to co-incidence.
@Jessica
Ah – but back canings, if done just *right* are deliciously orgasmic. The cane should be a thin light one, certainly not for me anyway) thicker than around a quarter of an inch.
The caner then taps lightly, setting up rhymic, percussive tapping, all the way up and down the back, from waist to shoulders. It feels like a massage and makes you fly
I see no reason to be worried. I could name a number of things – spanking scenarios, spanking implements, spanking positions – which I wanted to try ouf after seeing them on film. Getting ideas and inspiration from media (books, films, photographs etc.) is a perfectly normal and unobjectionable thing. Hell, if I hadn’t been fascinated by tales about the ancient Greeks and Romans during my childhood, maybe I would never have become a historian.
However, the reasoning behind the “extreme porn” legislation is that that viewing of such media actually causes people to commit violent acts. That is an altogether different proposition, and altogether more doubtful. To my knowledge, there is not a single serious scientific study that finds a tangible causal connection between violent media of any kind (action films, horror films, BDSM porn, computer games…) and violent behaviour. Some studies claim that violent media could, in certain cases, have a minor contributing influence on people who already have a strong disposition towards violence. But even that is controversial.
Speaking of dispositions, I think it is fairly obvious that the back whipping scenes you saw interested you because you, being kinky, already had a disposition to find them interesting. They would not interest a non-kinky person.
I understand your dilemma. But isn’t it true that all the things we do are at one point seen of read about? If I had never seen a spanking on television when I was young, or had never read about it in one of my books, I would never have gotten the idea of trying it out. I would have had a vague idea of needing something that was different, but I would have never gotten the idea that it was discipline I desired.
My desires have evolved too. Example: I was never interested in uniforms before, but now I find them an interesting addintion to the game. I clean in a maid’s uniform, and I study in a schoolgirl’s uniform. I even do my job dressed up in a formal suit.
I say: go for it. Read about it some more, learn how to do it safely, talk to experienced people, and go for it.
And write about your experiences! We are all very interested.
Good thread. While the risk of any significant damage with a simple flogger or cane stroke is very small, that risk is far greater in the case of a single-tail whip, particularly a cheap one in an untrained hand. A single rogue whiplash can pluck at an eyeball, slice skin or cause serious injury.
But a trained hand can choose to inflict whispering or searing pain with thumb-prin or grass-blade accuracy where ever you want – and the recipient knows that. It’s possible to whip far more unrelentingly than to cane – keeping the sensation burning on the surface, avoiding bruising numbing and drifting, let alone serious injury. (Rapid spray birching is the nearest sensation with a semi-rigid implement.) While the pain can be very testing, the welts can be transient, and as long as genitals, breasts and anus are not targeted, any images of whipping fall outside one of the key provisions which must be fulfilled they are to be deemed extremely pornographic in the UK (viz. An act which results in or is likely to result in serious injury to a person’s anus, breast or genitals).
Whipping is adult play with a definite frisson of risk and danger – like riding a race horse, an incredible head trip with every lash – and that’s why I like using single-tails.
Hmm, I am of the opinion that scenes which we see in films can indeed influence our kinky fantasies. To my mind the same is true for scenarios we read about. But I think it only works if the basic predisposition / fantasy already exists, anyway. That’s why I don’t see the influence as something negative. It’s just a matter of inspiration. Like others already said, our fantasies change over time and suddenly things we weren’t interested in in the past can become attractive. Maybe the inspiration comes from a sexy scene in a film, an erotic story or from a friend or partner who mentions a fantasy that attracts him or her and therefore it becomes attractive for us as well…
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