If there’s one major weakness in my spanking technique, I reckon it’s to do with warm-ups* – or, more particularly, the lack of them in many of the scenes I play.
I get the need for a good warm-up, of course, from the girl’s perspective – and that it’s in a good top’s interest too, allowing, perhaps, the scene to continue longer and (where appropriate) with greater intensity than if whackings are administered cold.
But here’s the thing. When it comes to school scenes, the thought of a headmaster laying his hands on a girl – rather than using a cane, tawse or slipper – doesn’t ring true for me. In a judicial scene, a hand spanking hardly feels commensurate with the caning or birching to follow. When the master of the house punishes a maid, putting her over his knees suggests inappropriate physical intimacy. In other settings, it just feels… well, indecisive: surely a disciplinarian should select his implement of choice, and get on for it, rather than dithering (“hey, let’s start with a hand spanking, then I thought we could move on to the strap too for variety…”).
Damned authenticity fetish, see? Of course that does leave many delightful scenes where a warming hand spanking is entirely appropriate; it fits in perfectly when out of character too – at parties for example, when just playing for sheer fun without a scenario or roles. But in the ones that are probably closest to my core kink? I struggle.
Ideas, tips? Do other tops feel the same – and how do you overcome it? And from those of you on the receiving end: any thoughts on how a good warm-up can best be integrated seamlessly into a scene where it may not fit totally naturally?
* others who’ve played with me may wish to come up with their own lists, but that’s not really the point of the post!
I think it’s possible to incorporate warm-ups with the disciplinarian if you can shift your thinking/character ever so slightly. Just because someone is an authority figure does ot necessarily mean that they are also strictly honorable. I think there is some wiggle room.
It is entirely conceivable that a disciplinarian also derives lusty pleasure from performing his duty, and within that context it might be permissable for said disciplinarian to sneakily cop a feel, or linger a touch too long, or pinch generously whilst examining the miscreant’s posterior (in order to help him decide what the appropriate punishment/severity should be)
Alternatively, it could be a choice that is offered to the girl awaiting punishment, with the authority figure explaining that although it would be embarrassing for the girl to undergo a hand spanking in advance of her punishment he would be willing to give her one as that would help with the caning to follow, if she were warmed up (a truly dastardly disciplinarian migth, at this stage, omit to mention that if the girl goes for the ‘easy’ option of being warmed up, then she will receive more or harder strokes than she otherwise might have
A little collusion from the bottom can fix the problem. Start with the spanking, and have her demonstrate (or pretend she has demonstrated) continued rebellion, undue stoicism, insincere reaction, inappropriate arousal, etc.
You can even foreshadow it; “I shall *start* with a spanking, and then we shall see if you are sorry enough.”
Give them the warm up spanking, and then start the scene.
Or, when possible, have someone else warm the girl up for you beforehand.
Just a thought… I know it can’t always be that simple.
But you are right, it is very important to keep an authentic feel.
One other thought: Warm ups don’t necessarily have to be a hand spanking… i.e., you could use a lighter strap to warm a girl up for the birch or the cane.
I’m found of sentencing “boys” to the triad, or trinity, x number with a strap x, with a paddle, x with a cane.
Or, if I am particularly unhappy with them, reversing those last two. (Carefully please!)
Another way of giving a warm up might be telling the girl that if she is going to behave in a childish way then she deserves a childish/junior punishment – even in a school setting, this would not be inappropriate. Once the bottom is sufficiently warmed, the Head can always decide that the punishment is not having the desired effect and move on to sterner measures
Well, at least Im glad (and proud of you) that you do understand why a girl might NEED a warm-up LOL
From my experience: Its not really a hand delivered warm-up that Im in need (and have been DESPERATELY in need during the last year due to my bottom deciding to go wimpy on me). Its the first few strokes (whatever the implement) being delivered gentler. Not just 1 and then strength building up every stroke, but 3, maybe even 6 gentler before building up. I see how that doesnt work for short 6 cane strokes punishment, but then I never really was in favour of short punishemnts like that so have not much experience in this.
But then, I also remember someone quite recently saying that your hand is worse than most implements LOL So do you really thing that if given the chance to use hand you CAN actually be gentle enough to call it a warm-up? 😛 (Kami, feeling brave and reckless as the kinky world still thinks she is a wimp 😉 )
And the obvious of course. Warm the girl up before the scene! Tried that, really works :]
Thanks, everyone – these are great tips… And my mind’s now full of ways of applying them
And Kami, what happens to reckless girls? 😉 (It’s a good thought that it’s harder for short six-of-the-best scenes, actually)
And I how _I_ know what happened so recless girls? 😛
* happens to
..agree with kami….a gradual build -up ,with whatever implement can prolong your ability to take a longer punishment.
…thinking about the discilpinary scenario and authenticity, it could be that the girl is of a cheeky nature, slapping of the legs, then being put into the corner with a few sharp slaps to the bottom could be seen as authentic, couldent it..?
I’m just wondering whether any of the girls I’ve played with so far this month have appreciated my attempts to learn from the advice here…!
Kami – reckless indeed 😉
Blush – I like the idea of the corner time to give the girl time to contemplate: perhaps to let her calm down too, before her caning or tawsing?
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