It takes quite a lot of spanking for me to feel it when I sit down. Even then, most of the time I have to squirm around, so that I feel the elastic of my knickers digging into the area of my bottom that’s red and sore.
When it does happen – when I do get spanked hard enough and for long enough to feel the shadow of pain over the next few hours, the pleasure is unique and exquisite.
How unfortunate is it, then, that to get this wonderful aftertaste I have to take a really, really hard spanking, possibly with a strapping or a caning on top? I like the idea of spanking, and the anticipation, and the ritual, and the afterglow, and can I even occassionally get into the right head to surf the pain and turn it into pleasure, but most of the time pain is pain. I don’t like being in pain.
But afterwards – oh, afterwards. Hard wood of a pub bench pressing against the pocket seams of my jeans. Tight elastic of my knickers across swollen welts.
I think, I’ll take the pain.
Oh, I totally agree. As rare as it is for me to feel it that seriously when I sit, I cherish the sensation and feeling my beloved’s marks on my body is a very special thing. In fact, just last weekend it was the case – but I have to say that the caning pain I have to endure to later be able to savor the “aftertaste” is absolutely crazy – I am talking tears, sweat, screaming, all but blood, thankfully. But this past Saturday I did, and when I sat on a hard bench in church on Sunday morning (Abel will probably like that), I could feel it all too well. The night before sitting down was not an option, as I said, good thing I went straight to bed. Even on Monday it still hurt.
It amazes me with what ease my husband can cane me to oblivion – I remember the mean man saying after the first hard stroke – “Well, you didn’t scream long enough!” Which was not true! Second time it was long enough alright, and he held me tight and kissed me for the whole duration of the screaming and sobbing after the second hard stroke. I think my reaction was so vivid, that there was no need for the safeword.
No wait, that brutal caning was on Sunday night, and what I felt in church must have been from the night before. I am afraid it all blended together in my head! :). Then there was certainly lots and lots on Friday night… No wonder I get confused :).
Well Haron…..you know what they say
No pain – no gain!!!!!
Amber – I take my hat off to you. You are a brave brave girl!
Totally agree.
I love the anticipation, the tingle I feel when the caning is a long way off, building up the the sheer butterflies as it inevitably gets closer (doesn’t happen very often in my case so I have a long time to anticipate!)
Actually getting caned is not fun. It hurts. It’s about trying to endure rather than enjoy.
But the aftermath is something special. I feel alive and I’m sure my hips wiggle more when my bottom and thighs are covered in cane weals. But sitting down after a caning is the best bit – there’s surely nothing to touch that feeling!
Rapunzel – thanks! Not sure about brave, maybe it’s more accurate to say “curious.” I think my husband is actually more brave than me, because one thing to take the caning, and another thing is to give the caning – it’s like he’s trying to strike the balance point between “make sure she remembers it for a long time” and “make sure I don’t break the skin and she doesn’t hate me.”
What a giggle! Amber, what’s J’s definition of “a long time”?
Rob – “till tomorrow” :)?
Amber: Voila!!
Well, Rob, don’t underestimate it – the welts I got on Sunday are pretty much still there – only instead of red and white they are now purple and blue… On a nice blue background, that is, which came from Friday and Saturday. I don’t know why I savor this description, I must be crazy!
My husband has tried spanking me many times, but he’s been trying to find an implement that will be more effective than a paddle, in terms of hurting afterward and leaving a “stronger memory.” Would a cane do this? How many times would he have to hit me with it? Just a couple? Why may he not like caning me?
I’m sort of scared of the cane, so I made my b/f go REALLY slow. Really slow, amazingly slow, he probably feels like he’s just tapping for hours. I hate pain. But when he goes that slow, by the time it actually hurts I’m already far gone.
I am not sure if I even think of spanking tools in terms of scary – I think of them in terms of “delightful, exciting, intense.” I have to say that I am a real masochist where spanking is involved, I love the spanking pain in the sense that I need it and crave it. It’s an addiction, a rush, if you will. J even says that I “break out” if for some reason it’s withheld.
Amber: My other half happened to read your comments here and gives you full marks for your unadulterated honesty. I’m impressed too, but just between you and me, what happens when you ‘break out’???
Rapunzel – why, that sounded awfully mature of you.
Catherine – we’re on the same wave here, I feel. Caning = no fun. Before and after = lots of fun. Mmmm.
Megs – I guess, that’s the way to do if, if you both have the time and the inclination. The slow build-up can get some amazing results, and not just with canes, but with pretty much anything. Doesn’t quite work when you’re role-playing, but in a straightforward spanking it can feel soooo great.
Amanda – OK, this can be very individual depending on your pain tolerance etc… But what I’ve found works extremely well for creating an aftertaste is a thorough warm-up with a flat implement (hand, paddle, brush, whatever), and when you’re all warm, toasty and thoroughly red, a few hard strokes with a whippy implement, such as a switch, or a cane, or a narrow dense tawse.
If you’re really well warmed-up, the strokes need to be pretty hard for you to feel them – much harder than you would normally be able to take. Six strokes or so can do it, though you may find you want more 😉 When the overall heat subsides, you will still have taken a few hard strokes of a whippy implement, of which your skin will be happy to remind you for a little while.
The reasons not to enjoy the cane… well, it needs a little practice before you can use it properly, preferably on some cushions. If your husband is not a patient sort, he may decide that it’s too fiddly and not worth the practicing.
Amanda – I am not a nearly as experienced spankee as Haron, but in my case I too found that the cane welts (which I myself began to get only recently) are very memorable to sit on later.
However, I think I made it really graphic that in order for me (personally) to get lasting/sore marks, I need to be whacked pretty darn HARD. Hope you don’t have neighbors type of hard. So don’t get discouraged if you get the hardest caning you can take and still no lasting soreness/marks!
Although I haven’t tried it yet, they say that a rubber can leave a lasting expression. Does Haron think it’s true?
I think that if one made it a point to cause some serious bruising with a wooden paddle, that can make you feel sore afterwards as well. Bruises are painful to sit on! I also remember that an aggressive session with a wooden spatula, for instance, creates a steady burn for about 5 min.
Also, Amanda, this is very important, I find – when your partner canes you, make sure that he aims in such a way that the tip of the cane is aimed at and lands IN THE CENTER of your right buttock (if he is right handed) and not beyond the edge of your bottom – otherwise it will wrap and hit you on the hip, which is not a good thing for a variety of reasons. I’ve been switched for quite a while with this wrongful technique, until someone told me the trick I just shared with you. And it made all the difference.
If you are in US, I suggest not to buy canes from the Hanson Paddlewerks by any means – too crooked, making them hard to aim, not very nicely sanded, just not nice (but their other stuff is nice). I like Adam and Gillian’s or one can also try Stockroom.
No comment about the sting-inducing qualities of rubber; I don’t like it, so don’t play with it much. Rubber soles of slippers and the like a effective at warming up your butt, and ultimately numb it, that much I can say.
I am also curious about bamboo – does it have something special to offer?
Yes: splinters in your bottom
(Seriously: bamboo breaks too easily, which is really not very good for you.)
Haron, that’s precisely what I’ve heard elsewhere!
Ok, no bamboo :).