Nothing to say

Seeing someone you love so very dearly experiencing the deepest grief makes blogging seem so irrelevant. (Kink? What’s that?)

Yesterday morning, in the far east, EJ received the most awful news of a family tragedy back home. There was nothing I could do to help, save sort logistics and get us on the first plane home – and to hold hands and hug, to listen and to be there. No meagre crumbs of comfort, in the most truly awful and shocking of circumstances.

Whilst I often write blog posts a fair way in advance, posting at such a time seems entirely wrong. You’ll excuse a few days of radio silence, therefore, until I get back to work next week and normality (whatever that is) has to resume.

12 thoughts on “Nothing to say

  • 5 June, 2012 at 7:07 pm
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    Ludwig and I are sending you strength and warm hugs, Abel. You might not be able to change what has happened but I am sure that having you at her side will give EJ strength. Take as much time off as you need, loved ones always come first! Our thoughts are with you and EJ.

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  • 5 June, 2012 at 10:07 pm
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    Much love to you and EJ xxxxx

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  • 6 June, 2012 at 4:12 am
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    My condolences to EJ.and you as well. you are in a difficult position, but I’m sure you will comport yourself well.I think that EJ is my heroine of the correspondents involved in your blog. It grieves me that such an event should have happened to her. GOD bless you both and especially comfort her. I will pray for strength and comfort for both of you, especially her.

    George

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  • 6 June, 2012 at 10:07 am
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    I have never met you, but am mentally ‘sending out’ to you both, for strength for each of you, and what comfort is possible for EJ. After the darkest of nights comes the dawn…

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  • 6 June, 2012 at 11:47 pm
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    .. sincere thoughts to you both, especially EJ .

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  • 7 June, 2012 at 10:59 am
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    Hope all the well soon!

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  • 7 June, 2012 at 4:22 pm
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    so very sorry to hear this. hugs.

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  • 8 June, 2012 at 2:40 am
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    My thoughts and prayers go out to you, EJ.

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  • 8 June, 2012 at 7:41 am
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    Such a shocking, painful experience to endure. I have had Em in my thoughts since I heard and cannot imagine what she is going through.
    As for you, please do not underestimate the gravity of going through with someone you love. Experiencing the fragility of existence and feeling that for all your love of her (and the love her family and friends have of her) that there is no saving her from the pain she must go through, that is a life changing experience.
    I understand your silence and I am with you in it should you need me.

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  • 8 June, 2012 at 10:22 am
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    At a time like this, people need to take as much comfort and strength as possible from those close to them. That’s where you need to be right now. Take as much time as is necessary.

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  • 8 June, 2012 at 11:22 am
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    Thank you, everyone.

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  • 8 June, 2012 at 11:51 pm
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    My Condolences to you both.

    Sometimes, just saying nothing and being there for a loved one is all one can do. I wish you both the best.

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