So, sex after spanking, anyone?
Yep: I know we rarely talk about such risque topics here, but I’ve been pondering said subject rather a lot lately. Not, actually, about scenes that involve sex per se (as can certainly be the case in darker, more abusive play) – but specifically about the different types of sex that can follow a spanking scene.
There’s (a): holding the young lady tight; comforting her; hugging her leading to touching; kisses, perhaps, moving on to mutually-pleasing (tender, or forceful) consensual sex.
There’s (b): a beaten girl being reminded that spanking isn’t the only form of punishment, not the only way she can be taught to be obedient or to demonstrate her obedience: the sex here much darker, much more consensually non-consensual.
Both, for me, have their place – what works with one play partner in one setting may not work well with the same person on a different evening (or, if one’s being particularly decadent, morning or afternoon). Calling it wrong, though, would be a recipe for disaster – abusively fucking the girl who wants tenderly caressing, or tenderly caressing the girl who wants to be abusively fucked. And, of course, I should add that spanking play for me doesn’t necessarily always involve a sexual dimension at all.
Anyway, I’m curious… What do others think, enjoy, prefer? When, why? If that isn’t too naughty or intrusive a set of questions!
For myself and Bekie the sex could be before the spanking, during the course of a fab evening, which may involve spanking, sex, and other naughtiness, or perhaps after the spanking. Or maybe not at all, and just a read bottom and a face full of spunk
..ah well, I’ve come across people in the past whe adamently say there can be no cross over, how wrong it is to mix the two….but its a choice between the two involved. For me with my partner its not always essential, but depending on our mood, the circumstance its a very lovely place to end up….
Definitely the first option for us, because we don’t do role play or punishment spankings, only the fun, sexy kind.
Hugs,
Hermione
The hubby and I do both fun spankings and the not-so fun ones. And frankly, I prefer the not-so fun ones to be followed with additional and consensually non-consensual disciplinary sex. I want to feel that added power and even those tinges of discomfort. Yes, there’s times when only fun and tenderness will do, but there’s also a place for the rough stuff. And I’m glad I’m in a relationship with someone who’s willing to provide.
I think the first one is more applicable for me. Making love and adding a little bit of naughtiness on the side is enjoyable.